In case you can't tell from my absence from this space, I'm having a bit of trouble finding my "new norm" since Mouse joined our house.
I returned to work two weeks ago, and while it's just three days a week in the office, because it is my own law practice, I can't entirely check it at the door when I leave to come home. And invariably, when I walk in the door at 6pm with both kiddos in tow, Mouse wants to eat (regardless of when her last bottle was), Moose wants a snack and to go outside, Daddy M is either just walking in or came home early and is out for a run, and then there's the matter of dinner.
I'm not complaining. Just stating the challenge. The beauty this time around is that I know I will find a new rhythm. I've been on a healthy slow cooker recipe bender. I've learned to feed Mouse one-handed while I feed myself one-handed. Some other stuff hasn't come together yet (like regular exercise; or regular knitting), but it will get there.
The one thing I have managed to maintain is a "special game" for Moose on the days we are home together. The "special game" is the devolution of my attempts at Tot School. Try as I might, even before Mouse, I couldn't seem to keep up with all I wanted to do with Moose on a weekly basis to compliment what he gets at preschool. However, along the way, I learned that he loves sensory play and I've managed to keep a cache of sensory play ideas in my brain (and Pinterest) to pull out on the days we stay at home together.
And these "special games" - something he looks forward to - have been an anchor for me as I otherwise seem to drift and bob about.
Sometimes they're impromptu and non-themed (shaving cream, transferring ice cubes between large measuring cups). Other times, when I've struck lucky at the dollar bins at Target (or similar), I manage to put together a theme (like the autumn one, above).
Whatever the specifics, they all seem to be a hit.
Which means that, wherever else the day goes, I can count at least one success. And right now that's enough to keep me going - ironically anchored and, therefore, able to sail on to finding a new norm.
Linking up with Lydia for some mothering inspiration to start the week.
I can only imagine how hard it can be to find that rhythm in the course of all the change. Hoping it all falls into place soon.
ReplyDeleteI struggle to find my peace with change too... I am sure eventually it will all fall into place but until then you kinda just have to hang on and enjoy the ride. I am glad part of the ride is a cool sensory activity... they are often so calming for us all!
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